An engagement to remember...

[singerinthedark]

I've been surfing the boards lately, looking at the entries of people who know Matt and I, and it is slowly dawning on me how many people had no clue that we were thinking about getting married. A lot of people are expressing their hurt about that...

I want our friends to know that Matt and I weren't trying to leave all of you out of this. We didn't say anything because, it wasn't public information yet. Matt had yet to "make a big deal about it," i.e. propose to me formally. (For the whole story, see my first entry.) Our parents didn't even know. (Matt's parents were pushing for it, though.)

When the accident happened, Matt's parents told the hospital that I was his fiancee because, it would be easier for me to have access to him. They knew that Matt intended to propose to me formally in the near future, they just had no idea that he had done so informally about two years ago. It was the easiest way to explain my relationship to Matt.

Matt was my life-partner. Whether we actually were engaged or married or whatever doesn't really matter to me. I think in some ways we both knew that one of us was going to leave early. I feel that's one of the reasons he and I became so close so quickly. Somehow in four years I have experienced a lifetime of love. I am grateful for that. And I am glad to have shared this period of my life with our mutual friends.

I am so sorry Matt and I didn't tell you all about this earlier. I just assumed that you all had figured it out, and Matt was way too good at keeping secrets.

Comments

Announcements

[satyrlovesong.livejournal.com]

You had mentioned it at the Violinista's pants party. I rather suspect that it was one of those "assumptions" that we all make. I don't think that people will hold your lack of public declaration against you - but I think we are becoming accustomed to our Pryankster proposals being done at Pryankster events (Barnabas and Hazel, Violinista and her love, Kay and Groblek). We've gotten spoiled, in sharing the joy.

I think that most people just would have loved sharing the joy of knowing two such lovely people had made the right decision.

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[agengrgal.livejournal.com]

Ditto!