Matt's mom was down this weekend as well. She was helping me go through things. So, yes, that is good advice. I've been trying to give them things that might have emotional significance to them. There are just a few things (toothbrush, robe, cloak, climbing harnass, etc.) that have been in the spots they are in for so long that I'm not ready to get rid of them. It's not for lack of trying, but I always cry so hard that I put them back. I know I'll probably get rid of/give to his parents some of them (if they want them) eventually, just not right yet. I need to be able to take them out of their spot without becoming quite such a mess first.
All in all Matt's parents have been terribly wonderful and understanding. They know that I'll give them most of the things that have emotional significance to them. It's just going to take time for some of the things.
As to my Mom, I e-mailed her this morning about what is bugging me. I know that she's trying to help. I just need her to lay off the guilt trip. (E-mail works better than talking to her because she can be over-sensitive and shut her ears to what I'm saying sometimes.)
I am seeing a grief councelor. (Also good advice, which I think you gave me in an earlier post as well. Thank you.) The university offered it to me, even though I'm no longer a student. Mom and Dad know this, though it hasn't helped them let go a whole lot. Understandably, they've become overprotective of myself and my siblings since Matt died.
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All in all Matt's parents have been terribly wonderful and understanding. They know that I'll give them most of the things that have emotional significance to them. It's just going to take time for some of the things.
As to my Mom, I e-mailed her this morning about what is bugging me. I know that she's trying to help. I just need her to lay off the guilt trip. (E-mail works better than talking to her because she can be over-sensitive and shut her ears to what I'm saying sometimes.)
I am seeing a grief councelor. (Also good advice, which I think you gave me in an earlier post as well. Thank you.) The university offered it to me, even though I'm no longer a student. Mom and Dad know this, though it hasn't helped them let go a whole lot. Understandably, they've become overprotective of myself and my siblings since Matt died.