Yesterday I accidentally trespassed on a soft spot my boss had. I handed MT breakfast.
I saw my boss walking into MT's office (where she also works) and told her that I got the file I needed and was leaving. I just wanted to give MT breakfast because breakfast is the most important meal of the day and it helps you get through the day and be very productive. Sounds corporate enough right?
She looked like she was going to burst into tears holding her breakfast--a latte.
I didn't understand what it was that I had said, but I read the non-verbals and ran out the door.
This is actually the third time she's seen me feed MT. 1st was a lunch with a heart shaped post it note with MT's name on it at a training she was leading. She said we were cute. 2nd was telling her that I had driven over to pick up MT at work with home cooked dinner and taken her to the wharf. She said wow. Third was yesterday morning.
She pulled MT aside later and asked that we stop. She asked that we keep it corporate. MT realized that it was really because the boss' partner does not take care of her. In fact they may be breaking up.
Ouch.
So for the next two weeks, MT and I will be work strangers not calling or appearing at each others offices and not being a couple publicly within the company. Not mentioning each others names. I encouraged them to hire MT. The boss had been mining my intelligence on the problems at MT's office. I emphasized MT's credentials. She hired her by asking me to coordinate logistics with MT. It's been a mixed bag.
Both of us are bound to be promoted, but we just have to be careful with the boss' feelings. The boss is trying to be brave and failing. We feel bad for her, but we also know we can be more public after the stress of 4/15 passes.
My own doh!
I saw my boss walking into MT's office (where she also works) and told her that I got the file I needed and was leaving. I just wanted to give MT breakfast because breakfast is the most important meal of the day and it helps you get through the day and be very productive. Sounds corporate enough right?
She looked like she was going to burst into tears holding her breakfast--a latte.
I didn't understand what it was that I had said, but I read the non-verbals and ran out the door.
This is actually the third time she's seen me feed MT. 1st was a lunch with a heart shaped post it note with MT's name on it at a training she was leading. She said we were cute. 2nd was telling her that I had driven over to pick up MT at work with home cooked dinner and taken her to the wharf. She said wow. Third was yesterday morning.
She pulled MT aside later and asked that we stop. She asked that we keep it corporate. MT realized that it was really because the boss' partner does not take care of her. In fact they may be breaking up.
Ouch.
So for the next two weeks, MT and I will be work strangers not calling or appearing at each others offices and not being a couple publicly within the company. Not mentioning each others names. I encouraged them to hire MT. The boss had been mining my intelligence on the problems at MT's office. I emphasized MT's credentials. She hired her by asking me to coordinate logistics with MT. It's been a mixed bag.
Both of us are bound to be promoted, but we just have to be careful with the boss' feelings. The boss is trying to be brave and failing. We feel bad for her, but we also know we can be more public after the stress of 4/15 passes.